Obituary for Ray

…death would be over­co­me, Jen­sen thought, if it were pos­si­ble, not to iden­ti­fy into ones­elf, but in the who­len­ess…

On decem­ber 13^th, 2020, Ray pas­sed away. We are sad that he is not here with us any­mo­re. We miss him. At the same time, we are very gra­teful and full of love to have been able to meet him. His life´s work will live on – through us and through all human beings we meet.

 

Mee­ting Ray has deep­ly touch­ed us and chan­ged our life. Through him being with us and his sup­port, we have grown into the human beings, we are meant to be. We found a way to trust our­sel­ves and rea­li­ze more and more our deepest per­so­nal  poten­ti­al.

1996 – 1999 Ray taught us in Switz­er­land. Over the years we are able to see how his work has touch­ed and chan­ged not only us but also many other peo­p­le. In each per­son he saw their beau­ty and com­pe­tence. And through his touch and his form of inter­ac­ting with peo­p­le he empowered them to dis­co­ver their inner beau­ty and com­pe­tence.
A wave was set into moti­on: Ray named it “the silent revo­lu­ti­on of love”. Whoe­ver inte­gra­tes Ray’s life­work, lives life with heart­felt love and tou­ch­es other peo­p­le in their beau­ty and com­pe­tence. Thus, this wave spreads and rea­ches count­less peo­p­le, who in turn pass on the silent revo­lu­ti­on.

Thank you, Ray, for your lega­cy. Your life left a fun­da­men­tal impact. This impact is living through us.

 

Ray named his approach of inte­gra­ting pre- and peri­na­tal pat­terns “Soma­tic Blue­print”. Deep in each human being the­re is an ori­gi­nal pat­tern of pure health, who­len­ess and deep inner kno­wing. Through an ener­ge­tic and soma­tic approach, we are able to turn to this blue­print and to live our lives from the­re. The blue­print was the­re befo­re our lives were shaped by our histo­ry. In other words:  Ray’s life­work is about tur­ning inwards and loo­king beneath our   imprints, to find  and to sett­le into our healt­hy core. This healt­hy core, the blue­print, is part of each human being.

 

The indi­vi­du­al life sto­ry is also ack­now­led­ged in Ray’s tea­chings – trau­mas and imprints from the fami­ly sys­tem, from the ances­tral histo­ry, from con­cep­ti­on, pregnan­cy, birth and ear­ly child­hood. This histo­ry needs to be seen and ack­now­led­ged. Ray taught us to be with the histo­ry, but not to iden­ti­fy with it. We ori­ent to our inner health. From the­re we are able to ack­now­ledge our histo­ry with love and care and we can be with it, when it shows up. We are lear­ning that we have a choice: “to be with it, not to be it” we heard from Ray many times. We learn to act from the healt­hy blue­print ins­tead of reac­ting from the trau­ma imprint.

 

Bes­i­des the ori­en­ta­ti­on to health the­re is some­thing else that touch­ed us deep­ly while stu­dy­ing with Ray: it’s his extra­or­di­na­ry way to meet other peo­p­le.  Ray didn’t work with peo­p­le. He met them and us sen­si­tively, mindful­ly, gent­ly, affec­tion­a­te­ly, wel­co­mingly and mostt of all authen­ti­cal­ly – just like a fine, warm car­essing of the heart.

 

In spi­te of his wealth of expe­ri­ence and know­ledge, Ray made sure to meet the peo­p­le from a “place of not kno­wing”. Thus, each per­son found the pos­si­bi­li­ty to dis­co­ver their wis­dom insi­de them­sel­ves. Ray taught us to trust the pro­cess from the insi­de out, from the kno­wing of the body. This sup­ports peo­p­le to sett­le deep­ly and to walk the path of the inner-kno­wing and the path of inte­gra­ti­on from the insi­de out. The faci­li­ta­tor in the tra­di­ti­on of Ray is pre­sent, mir­ro­ring, naming – ener­ge­ti­cal­ly, soma­ti­cal­ly and also ver­bal­ly.

 

This encoun­ter is hap­pe­ning in group set­tings: eit­her in the fami­ly or in a small group of adults. In the tra­di­ti­on of Ray, the faci­li­ta­tor crea­tes a safe envi­ron­ment, in which core­gu­la­ti­on can occur. The faci­li­ta­tor hum­bly steps back and holds the safe space. The inte­gra­ti­on is hap­pe­ning through core­gu­la­ti­on in the fami­ly / small group. Safe­ty, con­nec­tion, being pre­sent with each other and with wha­te­ver unfolds from the insi­de out, are the nou­ris­hing basics.

 

Ray, we are deep­ly gra­teful for the time we were able to spend with you, learn from you and pass on our expe­ri­en­ces to others. Mee­ting you left deep imprints in our lives. Your life´s work will live on through us and we will car­ry on the wave of the silent revo­lu­ti­on of love. You left visi­ble foot­prints in us and in many others. The con­nec­tion with you will go on, bey­ond this life.

Ger­ma­ny / Switz­er­land, Decem­ber 2020, Regi­na Bue­cher, Anto­nia Stulz-Kol­ler, Klaus Kaep­pe­li